Things You Do When You Get Older

Now that I’ve reached my forties and the hyper-awareness that my life is more than half done, I have all new hobbies and interests. Some of these are activities that used to bewilder me, back when I was in my twenties and I’d see 40-somethings obsess over things I couldn’t possibly care about. Some of them I came to understand better when I reached my thirties. And some of them are completely unexpected, but make perfect sense now, now that I’m almost old.

Hobbies, Interests, and Goals I Have Now, That I Didn’t Have When I Was Young:

1. Trying to take care of this mortal husk before it’s too late and my joints are ground to powder

2. Trying to improve myself or my life, in one way or another, each day

3. Breaking goals into small chunks with ample rest time between, as opposed to plowing through pages of goals and getting upset at the length of time it took me to acheive them

4. Reassessing pending goals and discarding the ones based on outgrown neuroses

5. Thinking about bifocals

6. Doing that thing where you try to click on a word with your mouse, but you click on the word next to it, instead, and then remembering when I used to watch older people do that with their mouses and boggle at their inability to click the intended word and wonder what their deal was — Did they need glasses? Had they not played enough video games in their lives to develop normal eye/hand coordination? — and trying to forgive myself for my past lack of empathy as well as my current inability to click the damn word that’s right there on the screen in front of my face

7. Avoiding the emotional dramas presented to me by family and friends, without feeling guilty about it

8. Letting my kids make their own mistakes, instead of acting like a truck that drives ahead of them and salts the icy roads in order to keep them from ever slipping

9. Letting go of responsibility for situations that have nothing to do with me, like a volunteer fireman who only puts out fires at his own house

10. Trying to react to adversity with forthrightness instead of surpressed anger or uncontrolled anger

11. Buying good quality shoes that won’t hurt my feet

12. Ignoring lists about what women should do when they’re forty

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Posted in Uncategorized on 04/08/2013 09:05 am


  1. Wow! Cool! Congrats about the poet laureate thing!

    Like our Daddy Kiril we look forward to what happens next but, as 2 of Houston’s apparently few cat bloggers, we have more pressing questions:

    How many cats do you have? Are they poets, too?

    Why no mention of the cats since Xmas 2010?

    Have they ever considered having a blog themselves? Why not?

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